Whose Reward Are You Really Seeking?

Some call it charity..Some call it philanthropy and Some simply call it helping the poor/less privileged.
Now what gives me concern about this act recently is the fact that this act has become something that the giver feels justified in doing,only after he has publicised his generosity or the extent of his largesse!

With the desire to assist in the welfare of the less privileged or donate generously to the needy, why is it so important to call a photographer,take pictures,get on social media platforms and post each picture showing how you presented cartons of drinks,food or beverages so the whole world can see you as the ever-generous giver or the certified philanthropist!*smh*

What really changed from the days when the giver is open handed and the whole world doesnt have to know about his every act of benevolence?

Am I wrong in thinking charity is supposed to be an act of selflessness where the giver gives out of compassion without seeking praise ,validation or a reward from the public?

As a philanthropist,must you publicly show your every act of humanitarianism to the the less privileged?

Does that justify the means to promote your brand as a non-governmental organisation?

If it does,how come there are other philanthropists out there who are wealthier and even more generous,but do not show off or publicise their acts of compassion to others who seek their help?
Whose reward or acknowlegdement are you really seeking..God or humans??

Honestly...at some point, as a generous giver,i think it would be necessary to ask yourself this questions.

Work for a cause,not applause! Live your life to truly express and not to impress!
Don't strive so hard to get recognition for your generosity..just allow your good works speak for itself!

Till my next post,live..laugh...love...and of cos stay blessed!

Speaking Up..!

It seems a pretty difficult task for some of us to voice out our opinions on our beliefs, values or even opinons!
I think it appears more difficult when we are dealing with family,friends or people we care about because of the fear of being hurtful to them.

At some point we even compromise our values or tailor our opinions just to avoid confrontations or endless hours of unproductive arguments!

Truth be told...i am not a passive person by nature but i realised that in the bid to avoid lengthy conflicts,i just conveniently shy away sometimes from imposing my opinion or belief on the issue in contention!*sighs*
Funny enough,i got so angry with myself sometimes for not having the willpower to aggressively stand up for my opinion and making the other person accept my views,regardless of the consequences!*smh*

I came to realise that sometimes(if not,most times),you have to possess that inner strength that allows you to be truthful not just to yourself,but to others and damn the consequences that may arise from speaking up!
In the course of speaking up,it is likely you might push others away or even seem like you come on too strong because of your strong-minded nature or honesty but trust me...friends who resent you for your honesty/truthfulness are definitely not worth your friendship!

Honestly,it's not always easy for some people to accept the truth (LOL!I'm guilty of that sometimes),so before speaking up,you have to find a balance and know your limits so as to maintain a positive discussion/relationship with the person.
Even though telling the truth may be difficult for many people,it's the approach that we take,that allows us earn the respect of others!

It's important to put the person in reasonable consideration and remember that it's not what you say but how you say it that truly matters!
You must remember to choose your words carefully,use the appropriate language and apply the right tone in your voice as you speak constructively and of cos,tactfully criticise the matter at hand!

Be real!Just say it as you truly feel,with the right words,in the right manner and you will earn respect for speaking up!
Speaking up for what we believe in,sharing our views positively...can be helpful and beneficial when it's done kindly,constructively and appropriately!

Till my next post...live,laugh,love and of cos ...stay blessed!

Do You Have A Clue..??

I have observed for a long while now that a lotta people see the forms of social media as a way to expose their negativity,rather than a medium for productivity!
I will focus on Instagram because i noticed facebook users have a somewhat better connection to whoever they follow..family,friends,colleagues etc.Most times,people connected on facebook have either met at some point in life (through school,work,church or even events),so it's only if you accept such a friendship that a person connects with you on facebook!

Now back to instagram..*smiles*
How do you insult or lash out at someone you don't know,have never met..or would never even meet?
How do your words of bad judgement help the person in a better way or any way?
Do you even have a clue about what the person is going through,battling with silently?
Does being a follower give you the right to spill out words of hate because the person followed has commited an offence or is a celebrity??
Actually,some would say the lashing on celebrities is debatable because they are public figures and as such,criticisms are expected. But then,one seems to forget that under that cloak of celebrity,there lies a human being facing severe challenges in life and might even be helpless but can't cry out because the world is watching!
Do you have a clue?? *sighs*

It's ok to dislike someone..or even dislike that person for no particular reason,but it's definitely not ok to disrespect,degrade or even humiliate that person just because you have access to do so,especially through social media!
Infact,in my opinion..spilling out words of hate say a lot about u because when you love yourself,you aren't capable of hating someone..regardless of what they have done!

Moving on...i think it's time we realise that there's already so much hate going on the world right now that an extra pound or more bags of hate towards someone,won't make it any better but instead worsen the situation!

Dealing with the increase in suicide recently,it's clear that a lotta people we see are fighting battles we cannot even imagine!
Do you really have a clue?? Just because you see a person smiling everyday,laughing at every given opportunity..doesn't completely justify that all is well!
Be kind with words (if you must speak)..lend a listening ear(if you can spare the time)..say it's ok to go through certain challenges or feel down but it's more important to remember that there's a reason for everything that happens and through every tunnel,there comes light at the end...after every rain/storm comes sunshine!

The little words of encouragement,(rather than shouts laced with insults and criticisms), could just be the last thing the person needed to hear before jumping off a bridge or taking a pill overdose.

Do not be part of the reason someone ends his life...instead be the reason why that person knows that life is still worth living despite all the mishaps and disappointments!
Be careful when lashing out those hurtful words because a few bad words might not seem a big deal to you,but may stick with that person for a lifetime!

Till my next post..live,laugh,love..and of cos stay blessed!