A Christmas Day meditation..

I wake up on this bright, cold Christmas morning and alas!!!

It's Christmas day!!! The long awaited day!! Yaaaaaaaay!!

Welll.. the holiday yesterday already put me in the mood, despite the feeling I had since last week, not exactly feeling like I was close to Christmas day yet*sighs*

So I pick up my phone to see if my family or friends are in the mood to celebrate...and yaaaaay i get tons of messages wishing me a very merry Christmas!!! Woww...cards and hampers by the door... Awwwww!!

Walking back to bed, i just drop my phone and start meditating... "you know it's really not about the public holidays...or the outings…or even the gifts!! It's actually about LOVE!! U can't help but feel loved not just today , but this season!

Think about the reason for all this celebrations...Christ!! He loved you unconditionally soooo much that He gave up his life to save you!! Who does that??? Who can ever??? Now that gives you more than a million reasons to celebrate His birth this season!!!"

Now coming outta meditation...to whoever reads this... I know some people out there don't exactly have family or friends around to celebrate with...maybe, even lost someone dear days ago or weeks back, got heartbroken, lost a job, survived an accident….and the list goes on!

But if you allow me indulge you...just stop and think...Despite all that's happened, you still woke up today (By His grace& LOVE), you are alive& breathing(By His grace& LOVE), you can actually read this...yeah?

Now there's no reason...absolutely none that sounds good enough not to celebrate this season!!

I know it aint easy to feel excited , especially if you are feeling down or depressed when this season is about love& hmmmm….people around you are looking all happy…but you should remind yourself that YOU are actually the reason for this season!!! Yesssss!! 

Christ was born for a reason…YOU!

Don’t forget in a hurry that God sent Him to earth for….YOU!....Soooo whether you like it or not.. let God show you His undescribable love this season.. let Him give you strength as you feel sad, let Him fill your loneliness with His love which is ALL you need, because you are special to Him regardless of whatever anyone thinks or feels about you!!Trust me!!*big wide smile*

Christmas is not about getting things and attention from others, but about receiving life and love from God. It’s not found in just sensual indulgence but in heavenly inspiration! Christmas…as far as am concerned…is meant to be a spiritual experience.

So, as you make plans for Christmas day...or this season, be sure to include God!! Honoring Christ is what the day is all about.

In the spirit of this beautiful season, I wish you a very very merry Christmas and a wonderful holiday!!

Looking forward to a new year & you should too!!

So get your shoes on...cos we have to keep running that race so you better be ready *wink*

Countdown 2016 has begun...Leggo!!!!

Until my next post, most importantly...Live, Laugh, Love….stay safe this season and of cos, remain blessed!!

Let The Countdown Begin!!!

Yessso Yessso*in TuFace's voice*!!It's one week to Christmas!!
Am sure some of you are wondering what all the excitement is about..LOL!!
Welll..Sooo many reasons actually..

For starters,it's a beautiful season of love and it also reminds you that the year is coming to an end in a bit!

This season is about love...not just feeling loved but showing love to others in return.
Truth is...as I have grown older,the spirit of Christmas is not as intense for me as it used to be when I was a lot younger*sighs*

Does that surprise you?Welll..back in the days I was soooo excited about Christmas because I knew I would get lots of gifts(not just from Santa*wink*)but from my parents and siblings.

Infact,I started writing up my list of expected presents from November and mentioning them at every given opportunity,so at least I gave everyone enough notice and of course,making sure I don't get what I already have...hehehe!

There was so much love in the air that you just couldn't afford to be excited!!There were also events to look forward to..either on Christmas eve,Christmas day or even Boxing day!

So anyways..bringing me back before I reminisce away..this season of love would spur me on to show love and even kindness to people I come across..especially if I have not exactly being that nice in the earlier part of the year*covering my face*

Please I cannot afford to enter the new year with funny feelings of regret,anger,pain..bla bla!
I wanna begin the new year with refreshing rays of hope,faith and love!!
Don't get it twisted..it's not some new year resolution..more like new year inspiration*wink*

Welll..moving on..I guess I am also excited because even if I don't get to paaartay all week..at least I get to see family and friends I haven't had time to laugh with all year(thanks to the public holidays) and of course,eat all the meals I have been day dreaming and drooling over in my sleep!LOL!
I sure intend to get enough rest through all of these celebrations so that I can also enter the new year strong and healthy enough to face anything that comes my way!

Okkk...nuff said...Let the countdown begin!!!!!!

Until my next post...most importantly..live,laugh..love..and remain blessed!

Making That First Impression Good Enough!

Hey people! Hope y'all are having a great weekend!
Welllll...if I must speak for myself...I sure am..but I know my idea of a great weekend might not exactly be at par with what you see as a great weekend*wink*

Speaking of weekends, for some people...it almost seems like a routine to be out at a wedding/party..or a hang out of some sort..or even church fellowships etc.
Welll...whatever the occasion..I always have this old saying cropping up in my head "First impressions last the longest!"..and I think it's true*sighs*

If you don't believe it..Think about my questions for a minute...
"Why do kids write about their 1st day at school?"
"When a couple try to reminisce about their relationship..it normally includes..I remember the 1st day we met..?"
"When a colleague also tries to recollect some past event in the office..there is a mention of The 1st day..or the 1st time we went to a client..etc?"

Okkk..anyways...all I am saying is that when you are at a gathering and meeting someone or people for a first time...try to make that impression good enough because it happens to be the one that's the hardest to forget*sighs*

To begin with..
Avoid negativity at all costs...in your comments,responses or even suggestions!Try to put a positive spin on the matters for discussion.
You know..emotions are infectious..and when you start spilling out negativity..the people around you will feel it and that might give the wrong vibes about your personality!

Next one that comes to mind..is Dressing the part.
At all times...one must dress properly...more like appropriately..which is wearing outfits for the right occasion/environment!
It has been said times without number.."Dress how you want to be addressed!"
Why would a lady wear club wear to church and expect everyone to look at her as normal??

Why would a guy wear a sleeveless shirt to church showing all his tattoos and think he should sit in the front row??
Let's call a spade a spade and not a fork!!
Normally when you walk into a place...people look at you and will begin to judge you long before you open your mouth!

For guys..a good shirt or blazer speaks a thousand words..just make sure its clean and well ironed. Your grooming,hair style ,perfume and other things to complete the look should be impeccable!

For the ladies..from the right top/dress..to the shoes,bag,perfume and accessories..that fashion statement has to be on point!
No matter how you look at it..Dressing right is essential!

Last but not the least is....Smile!
Yeaaah I kno rite! Kinda hard sometimes especially if you were forced to go out..but guess what?
Smiling is one of the simplest and most effective ways to make a good first impression!
Infact, it immediately helps put the other person/people at ease and relax on the tension.
Starting conversations with a smile normally gets the best results..trust me
You come across as a friendly person and people are not threatened by your looks.
But hold up...It's important that when you choose to smile ..It's not fake!!!
Fake smiles kill interactions fast..so please it's better you don't even smile than stressing your mouth muscles looking like Mr Bean! 

LOL!

Ok guys...wish I could mention one or two more but gotta go now*sad much*
Hope you remember one or two of these tips as u paaartay..or just hanging out anywhere..as you enjoy your weekend!!

Please feel free to share with family and friends on fb,twitter,etc...and drop your comments if you wish.

Until my next post...most importantly..Live, Love,Laugh..and remain blessed!

Think Again About That Crash-Diet Plan!

Heyyyy people!!hp ur havin a great week!!*wink*
Dont know bout you but i am gearing my body&soul towards the wonderful yuletide season!!
Now that brings me to what i am discussing today! I intend to celebrate this season to its fullest, guzzling down all the rice&chicken i will possibly lay my hands on!LOL!!!

Yeaaaah,i know where your mind's going..as i do that..i should keep checking the weight scale,right? Anyways..am not only gonna do that..i will also keep in mind right portions and of cos..balanced meals!!
I had the opportunity of having a chat with a nutritionist a while back&i decided to share this..especially for those who seem to be dieting but not getting it right...more like..not doing it right!!

You must understand that the best method to losing weight is done steadily...by eating a balanced diet containing all the necessary food nutrients the body needs..including healthy fats!! A lot of dieters follow the path of crashing about 7-10kg in a week and honestly...its not a good path!

When you can no longer continue with the routine of the crash diets& you return to your normal food intake,you will end up regaining your lost weight..sometimes even more! Its possible to do crash diets&lose a lot in a week or 2, but you will begin to feel unhealthy..or a bit sick because your body is actually lacking nutrients!

Let's start with that myth about cutting down all forms of carbohydrates. The truth is..in your aggressive quest to lose weight..you will be doing your body a lot of damage when you stop consuming carbs!
I agree you will lose some pounds....yeaaah I kno..But the after effects could be dangerous because Carbs are actually the most preferred fuel source to run our entire body system!!! So i am sure you understand why i would not completely rule out carbs in my diet*sighs*

Now lets go further into another path that some dieters follow which is the consumption of Just Fruits as meals!

You might find this diet funny but it is unbelievably true because fruits are actually healthy&some even work hard to fill you up enough to skip meals!!
Now the truth is...if you eat only fruits..you will be missing out on Protein,which is critical in the development and repair of the body tissues!

Dont even kid yourself!! The " Only Fruits diet" cannot drive your body's metabolism on its own because it does that with the aid of some food already consumed...so you would essentially lose out on other necessary food nutrients found in proper meals!

Lastly,this is more often an unintentional act..because i am guilty of this too!LOL!
 Well..mine is not for diet reasons..but more of a day being real busy sometimes..or fasting reasons every now&then.
 So anyways for those who intentionally eat a meal a day,it is just unacceptable! If you are fasting for spiritual reasons..i can relate to that&accept it during the period of fast...But if not..hmmmmm!

 Did you know that studies have shown that people who do this "one meal a day diet" tend to eat larger portions during this one meal,than if they had eaten 2 or 3 meals a day in appropriate portions??

Well..the truth is..once you avoid fuelling your body with appropriate meals..you will begin to lose concentration on daily activities!!

Speaking for myself...this is one of the reasons why this One-Meal-A-Day cant work for me because i like to be alert and always have a lot to do..so trust me..my body would definitely not find it funny if i starve it of what it needs..to help me function.

Having said all this...i cant but help remembering my mother's words.."Different strokes for different folks"!!

At this point...my 2cents on this is...Eat frequent ,nutritious ,small portioned meals and of cos fruits daily that will help your metabollism, while ensuring that your calorie intake is at recommended levels.
 In addition,a little workout or exercise 2-3times weekly would also help you lose the weight&stay healthy too!

 Ok guys...gotta go now*yawns* I hope this helps you on your healthier path somehow... Not just for this season but as a healthy routine.
Pls feel free to share with family,friends on fb,twitter,etc You can also drop your comments if you wish to do so.. Until my next post...most importantly..Live,Laugh,Love...and remain blessed!

Cheating Is Not All About Sex In A Relationship (Part 2)

Hallo peeps!!
Hope you had a great wkend! Well I got some rest so I guess that counts*sighs*
So as we discussed in my last post...
Does it make sense to cheat on your partner?NO!!So why do it?
Well..like I mentioned in my 1st post on Cheating...some would claim it wasn't because of sex.. but other interesting reasons!
I would just add these 2 to the ones I earlier talked about.

Social Media Flirting
Yeaaaah...Social media!!All types..Facebook,Twitter,WeChat..etc!
It may surprise you but it has been a trend that many couples question whether it makes or mars their relationship!
Usually borne out of boredom..or sheer curiousity..not necessarily for sex, a partner could cheat through this means!
From discussions,this is actually a trend for a couple of people found cheating on their partners. The bored/adventurous partner gets on social media(fb,twitter,etc) and reaches out to past acquaintances/friends and starts having series of chats /messages..which will eventually be an invitation to have something happen!

Actually,some might call it innocent flirting but i call it cheating..especially when the partner cannot have the same kind of chats wit her/his significant other!

Note: Facebooking,Twittering,etc have the strong potential to lead to infidelity,depending on the kind of chats/messages shared by the partner!

Loss of Male Ego/Feminine Confidence
It is human to feel that you are not being treated according to your worth..or value...sometime in a relationship.

When a man feels like his lady is crushing his ego..he doesn't stray because he thinks he will get better sex from another lady,but in most cases,he would cheat just to fill up that void and feel like a man again.

On the other hand,a lady could cheat because her partner has stopped appreciating her worth which makes her loose her confidence&to regain this,she will give a listening ear to the guy who comes along praising and treating her like a queen!

In conclusion to all i have said,it can be seen that a partner doesnt just cheat because of sex...but possibly because of the reasons mentioned&even more reasons i cannot mention now*sighs*

Most cheating partners usually deny it when accused(especially if sex hasn't happened yet)...So instead...take charge of what you can control---Your own behaviour..and take the lead in bringing your relationship to a better place!

Don't contemplate showing appreciation/affection to your partner ,prioritize your time together&even initiate sex more if you have to*wink*

Give your partner reasons to always have you at the top of his/her mind and always communicate how you feel!

On this note...i would say... You can create a relationship culture of RICH communication,understanding,appreciation and thoughtfulness—and once you set the tone your partner is most likely to match it!

Ok guys...i really hope this will inspire&enrich you somehow in your relationship(s)!
Gotta go now...
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Till my next post..most importantly...Live, Love..Laugh..and remain blessed!

Cheating Is Not All About Sex In A Relationship!

Heyyyy people!Hw y'all doing? Hope good!!
It's always interesting to the eyes or ears whenever a discussion on relationships come up..single/married!
I was at a hang out with friends and in the course of our catching up,we arrived at this baffling talk bout men cheating on their girlfriends/wives!
Well...i will share a bit of it today and i believe we can all learn a thing or 2..not just for the ladies...but the guys too!

To begin with ....
IS CHEATING REALLY ALL ABOUT SEX??
Well...it would surprise you that apparently it's not!
Emotional Dissatisfaction is actually a very strong reason why a partner could cheat!
Infact a lot of cheating partners actually say they strayed because of emotional dissatisfaction!!
Hmmm...So much for the myth that, for men mostly..cheating is all about sex*shaking my head*
Funny enough,some men have actually said that sexual dissatisfaction was not the main factor for their infidelity even though our culture tells us that all men need to be happy... is sex!

First reason that could make a man cheat is Lack of Appreciation.
Men are actually emotion-driven beings just like the ladies and they want to be appreciated by their girlfriends/wives and understood too!
Now the problem is...some men don't quite express their feelings so that makes it pretty hard for the lady to know when her man is in need of affection or affirmation!*sighs*

Second reason is Poor Communication/Connection.
Infact ...most times the man's emotional needs are overlooked because he wouldn't come out straight asking for understanding,affection...or even a pat on the back while going through trying times..

....and when he gets all this elsewhere,he's bound to eventually cheat with someone who gives him all these!

On the other hand,ladies could cheat for a whole lot of reasons..but i will just mention a few...
Firstly...Attention is the first reason that comes to mind.
Ladies want to feel wanted...desired and irresistable so if they are not recieving this desired intimacy,mental and emotional attention....it will only be a matter of time and they will seek it elsewhere from another caring guy or attentive friend...consciously or unconsciously!

It doesn't mean it won't lead to sex..but intially they just crave the attention/compassion that has been missing from their partner.
Another observed reason is Revenge!If a guy has cheated on his lady....hmmmm...it is an act quite difficult to forgive!It negatively affects the lady's mood,behaviour...even the ability to trust!If a lady has been cheated,she most likely will want to get revenge so the guy can feel the way she felt!

I cannot but mention...Bad Sex as another reason for a lady to cheat. I know a lot people say "Sex is so overrated these days"....but errrm...for some ladies...who want to feel desired and even experience orgasms during sex...if they aren't getting it from their partner,they would eventually lose interest and look elsewhere for some GOOD sex!
The last reason that comes to mind(even though not the final reason because there are a whole lot more)...is !Low self esteem When a lady doesn't love/value herself..she's insecure about herself and even if her partner loves her greatly,she may still cheat because she finds it hard to accept that unconditional love!
So now you can see why Emotional dissatisfaction is pretty common among couples....and could result in a reason for a partner cheating....and not just sex!!

Ok guys...due to the fact that this is such a broad topic...am going to have to stop here today and conclude on my next post*sad much*....so stay posted!
Please feel free to drop your comments/additions to the post as usual...share with family and friends on facebook,twitter,bb...wateva...
Until my next post...most importantly....Live,Love,Laugh...and remain blessed!